Selfless Ness

I am a very selfless person, sometimes a fault. But it's what works for me.

Selflessly Serving Your Family

When someone begins a family, they start to learn a lot about themselves and the world. Being a good family member requires absolute selflessness as you put the needs of your children and spouse ahead of your own. It is a painful transition for many, as evidenced by divorce rates, depression rates, and bolts in the night. But if you truly want the best for your family, you will learn to put your own needs to the side. There are many different ways that you can selflessly serve your family, and you should try to excel in all of them. When your kids grow up to be successful and healthy individuals, you will know that all of your effort was worth it.

First of all you need to recognize the idealistic differences between you and your spouse. Do you feel the need to have everything extremely clean all of the time while your spouse doesn’t mind living in a pigsty? That is fine. It may cause some of the trouble in your marriage, but you will eventually learn to deal with it. The best way to do it is to clean things up on your own, without grumbling or pointing out the faults of your spouse. If he or she mentions it, just say something along the lines of “oh, I just prefer it like this, don’t worry about it”. This kind of reaction from you will hopefully get your spouse to start keeping things tidy, the way you like them. If not, just continue to do it yourself without being bitter about it.

Next you need to give your spouse and your children the time that they deserve. It is easy for a working adult to get caught up in a cycle of working and relaxing, without setting aside time for persistent family time. Eat dinner with your family and force interactions, even if you are not feeling up to it. Sometimes it takes a lot of willpower to forget the stresses of work and to simply enjoy the presence of your kids. But once you get used to doing it, you will start to enjoy it more and more and your kids will certainly be better off since you are interactive and involved.

You should also try to create a good attitude in your children. Teach them your own ideals. If you selflessly clean up after your spouse, teach your children that this is the way to maintain a good relationship. Teach them that sacrifice is important. By spending this time and effort to cultivate the personalities of your children, you are improving their futures and most likely creating a smoother family life for the short term. There are no ways that a good personality can create family problems, so do your best to teach your children to be agreeable and pleasant.

It can be hard to focus on all of the different points of family life at the same time. But just take things one day at a time, and one step at a time. Starting today, spend a few hours with your family, chatting and getting to know each other better. When you grow old and you look back on your memories with your family, you will be full of pleasant memories and you will have no regrets.

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What a joke

I'm am sure that everyone has heard about this by now. Can you believe this garbage. It looks to me like a current fashionable scarf like what everyone else is wearing these days.... What a joke
I like Racheal Rays cookbooks, and her show and I would never consider her a terrorist and Dunkin Donuts are all over the country so I hope they are not part of a terrorist group, where would I ever get my buttermilk donuts from.
Dunkin' Donuts pulls Rachael Ray ad over scarf debate -- -- chicagotribune.com

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Survey sites

Today I wanted to start discussing survey sites, specifically ones that I use and I recommend. Along the way I will point out the ones that didn't work for me, but mostly I want to just point out the good ones.
I guess I should start out by saying that I have been attempting to do online surveys and getting something extra (not always money) for over 8 years, long before I become a SAHM. I am a member of many survey sites, and I have run into a point where I have run out of sites to join. Now having said that I don't keep up with all of them and only continue with the ones that are worth my effort.
MySurvey.com this is a site that I have been a member of for over 4 years or more. Now first I want to point out that I have not gotten rich, but I have gotten a few extras and some money along the way. This is a very reputable survey site and has been around for awhile. In this past year I have gotten some great samples to try and take a survey on. I have accrued enough points to earn some money (note: you accrue points to receive money), and for every survey that you take you will get an entry into sweepstakes. You also get entries into the sweepstakes for logging into the website. For every 1000 points you will receive $10. I generally get an average of 4-5 surveys per week.

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Quote for the day:

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.” Mark Twain

Customer Service Secret

Family: It was a great day and I am very tired, but all and all it was okay. We went to the zoo on Thursday (my 3yr old was finally feeling a bit better). It was a great day, a brown bear played peek-a-boo with us, we got to see a baby gorilla and other fun zoo stuff. Friday was just a day of funning around, and then date night. My husband and I went to a concert with some friends of ours. It was tons of fun and the theater (Sears Center - Hoffman Estates, IL) is really a nice place to go and is only 15 minutes from our house. But that is where all the fun ended, my 2yr old started getting sick and I was up with him from 11:30 till 2 or so, then back up again at 6:30am. It has become Murphy's law in my house that when mom goes out, the kids are up all night. It's not anyones fault, just my darn luck. I had a Lia Sophia party planned at my house that had to be canceled, my 2yr old seems to be better and we did get outside for awhile today, so hopefully we are back on the upward swing again.
My plan is to start the master cleanse on Monday, I will keep everyone up to date on my progress.

Secret of the day:
Secret Customer Service: Don't let this be your secret
Calling customer service these days if pretty hard to do. Customer service is said to be so important these days. So why is that it is so hard to find contact aka customer service information these day? Sure they will be happy to hand out a email address...
Check out this article from the Chicago Tribune, it says it all.

Calling customer service no longer a viable option

Customer service (also known as Client Service) is the provision of service to customers before, during and after a purchase.
So the question is are we providing the best service to our customer when we they can't contact us????
I have experienced this many times, I have a question about an online only company and have been unable to find anything but email or help ticket type customer service. So I go through all the faq, still no answer. I finally give in and send an email and 1 or two things happen
1. I never receive a respone
2. They don't actually answer my question
at this point, I generally remove my relationship with that company.
So the secret in this bountiful online market world, give the customers a way to contact you, that doesn't involve a computer. You shouldn't get than many calls, but you will build confidence - it works for me!

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Secret to Success and update

Of course I'm going to do the update first. My son finally seems to be doing better. He ate three meals today without getting sick. We also made it outside for an hour to play, although I could tell the nights of no rest were catching up to him. The poor little guy didn't get to see David Cook win American Idol (first season I ever watched). So hopefully tomorrow will be a new day, with new challanges, like accepting the fact my younger child has allergies like me. I on the other hand had a very bad and negative day, nothing seemed to be doing right!!!

So here is a different look at some ideas about the secret to success.

Planning for success is about mapping out all the aspects of your life. Similar to a map, you need to define the following details: origin, destination, vehicle, backpack, landmarks, and route.

Origin: Who you are

A map has a starting point. Your origin is who you are right now. Most people when asked to introduce themselves would say, “Hi, I’m Jean and I am a 17-year old, senior highschool student.” It does not tell you about who Jean is; it only tells you her present preoccupation. To gain insights about yourself, you need to look closely at your beliefs, values, and principles aside from your economic, professional, cultural, and civil status. Moreover, you can also reflect on your experiences to give you insights on your good and not-so-good traits, skills, knowledge, strengths, and weaknesses.

Destination: A vision of who you want to be

“Who do want to be?” this is your vision. Now it is important that you know yourself so that you would have a clearer idea of who you want to be; and the things you want to change whether they are attitudes, habits, or points of view. If you hardly know yourself, then your vision and targets for the future would also be unclear. Your destination should cover all the aspects of your being: the physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual.

Vehicle: Your Mission

A vehicle is the means by which you can reach your destination. It can be analogized to your mission or vocation in life. To a great extent, your mission would depend on what you know about yourself.

Travel Bag: Your knowledge, skills, and attitude

Food, drinks, medicines, and other travelling necessities are contained in a bag. Applying this concept to your life map, you also bring with you certain knowledge, skills, and attitudes. These determine your competence and help you in attaining your vision. Given such, there is a need for you to assess what knowledge, skills, and attitudes you have at present and what you need to gain along the way. This two-fold assessment will give you insights on your landmarks or measures of success.

Landmarks and Route: S.M.A.R.T. objectives

Landmarks confirm if you are on the right track while the route determines the travel time. Thus, in planning out your life, you also need to have landmarks and a route. These landmarks are your measures of success. These measures must be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time bound. Thus you cannot set two major landmarks such as earning a master’s degree and a doctorate degree within a period of three years, since the minimum number of years to complete a master’s degree is two years.

Anticipate Turns, Detours, and Potholes

The purpose of your life map is to minimize hasty and spur-of-the-moment decisions that can make you lose your way. But oftentimes our plans are modified along the way due to some inconveniences, delays, and other situations beyond our control. Like in any path, there are turns, detours, and potholes thus; we must anticipate them and adjust accordingly.

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Secret Wednesday

We had a pretty uneventful day. We ran a few errands and had gymnastics. Although we did get the sad news that my neighbors uncle passed away, thats after finding out on Monday that a gentleman that my husband works with passed away on Sunday of a heart attack. This man was also the brother of my husband's partner, so my husband has been covering the store this week to help him out. I guess it's just a sad week around here.

So moving on.....

It's secret Wednesday, Share your secret ideas, tips here:
Let's see for me today (secret/funny story) - I'm sure most of you know this, but once you find something that your child gets attached to buy more and interchange them. For my oldest is was cloth diapers, he has to have atleast 3 to sleep at night. But for my younger one it's this dog seat belt pillow, when we first got it I had no idea what it was or what it was for, we only found out when my husband went to order another one. The funny part is that one day I washed one of the dogs in bleach (they are cream), which we do on occasion and low and behold my son could tell the difference between the two. They were both worn about the same amount, but from that day on he could tell the difference between the two and no one else could. Now of course one is much more worn than the other, but for awhile there I have not idea how he could tell. So I guess not all secrets work all the time.

Whats your secret or tip that works for you?



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